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LJ Miss Manners, HELP!

I guess I have a question about adding friends. I have discussed this a bit with gryphons_holeabout this but I still have a few concerns. I will read a journal entry and see a comment and friend the poster. Then from their entry I will friend one or two of their commenters. Should or do I need to ask permission first to friend someone? Or should I send a little note, "Hi I thought I would like to follow your journal for a while... thanks". Or is it OK to friend and un-friend journals and just lurk for a while? Maybe I am just being too anal-retentive about this LJ thing.



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Nov. 20th, 2006 06:37 pm (UTC)

Friending and UnFriend is just how you manage your journal. I don't think that you need to ask permission to Friend someone if you merely wish to read their journal on a regular basis. It just makes a handy list for you to peruse. However, if the LJuser frequently posts 'Friends Only', then in order for you to read that post, you must be friended by them as well.

It is courteous to leave a message and say that you've friended someone, but you don't need permission to do it.

Some people get broke all out of joint when someone unFriends them, like it is a personal insult or something. In truth, journals get very long and unwieldy, especially if you've got a few daily mulit-posters (like yours truly) cluttering up the aether with nonsense. Since you can't predict how a person will react, it is probably best to fade into the background quietly, if you know what I mean.

By the way, I assume since Friday is Post-Thanksgiving, we're all giving mahjong a miss. Let me know if you want to meet up anyway. I'm not doing nuthin special, and after the week I just had, I crave human company.
Nov. 20th, 2006 08:26 pm (UTC)
It would seem that any option you pick will be the wrong one for certain people. I have yet to figure it out. It is an attempt to generalize something that has many different answers.

In general, I have found that rarely does anyone mind a friendly greeting or "oh, by the way..." although I still don't so much do that. I know I do pay more attention to someone that introduces themselves and/or comments compared to someone that just magically appears...
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